What my friend taught me

 Recently, I experienced the heartbreaking loss of a my (our) friend who passed away due to a health-related disease. Losing someone we hold close is never easy, especially when that person has been part of our lives for decades. I am being a little reflective today, I just heard the news he had passed, many thoughts are swirling around my head and the easiest path  is to just take a  journey with me as  I explore the nature of  our friendship, reminisce in regards to some  cherished memories, and honor the lessons he taught me.

Friendship is a relationship that transcends time, distance, and circumstances. Men do have friendships but often the really close ones are rare and valuable to hold on to if possible through one's life.  You could almost call it an "exclusive" circle and getting to be one of these close friends takes time.  My circle already has lost one dear friend, luckily there are some additions, but sadly time will inexorably deplete this circle. 

Looking back on my own life, I realize that while I've encountered numerous acquaintances along the way, only a handful have become true friends and hence are now part of this "exclusive" circle. As rare as these relationships they tend to be the result of everyday circumstances.  You can meet them at church, at school or simply live in the same proximity or neighborhood.  

Glynn and I were thrown together by circumstance, attending the same church and elementary school. I was kind of an outsider and maybe as he always said, “I felt sorry for you!” I think we became friends because sometimes opposites attract.  I always reminded him that if I was a chick I’d never have been attracted to him. As a teenager he looked a lot like the actor who played Ron Weasley in Harry Potter.   Red hair, freckles, and a quirky grin—Glynn's friendship proved to be invaluable. Our shared adventures, whether ball games, exploring the farmer's field, getting in trouble as teenagers, campouts, scout camps, it just solidified our bond. We grew older and discovered new interests, such as our ill-fated attempt at ballet classes to improve our skills at basketball, which was a fun story we told each other years later.  

Though we attended different high schools, Glynn and I remained connected at the hip on weekends.  He had a car so we could get in more trouble at that point.  From watching double features at the local mall, to double dating my girlfriend and her friend, life was pretty good. Things started to change when Glynn met Kenlynn, his future wife.  I naturally have been replaced, but that’s the way of life.  I wasn’t bitter, just life changed and new roads and journeys for both of us.  One that we had discussed was going on a mission. our church.  At age 19 many men in our church volunteer for a two year mission to a foreign country or usually another state in our country.  As I said, Glynn’s path was a different one, with a newborn daughter and wife Glynn still wanted to participate with my family as they dropped me off at the central missionary training center.  After they had dropped me off, Glynn was a bit emotional on the ride home, my parents told me later.  This always had an impact on me during and after my mission, even up to this day.

As life progressed, both Glynn and I faced new challenges and responsibilities. We maintained sporadic contact, relying on our unique ability as men to effortlessly reconnect whenever we crossed paths. There was an unspoken understanding that no constant communication or phone calls were necessary—a simple "hey, I'm coming over" sufficed. Nevertheless, circumstances and geographic distances created obstacles in maintaining regular contact. Glynn's move to Arizona due to employment and my own commitments as a new husband and father made our interactions less frequent but no less meaningful.  He’d call me when someone died in the old neighborhood and I’d call him if I had questions about fixing my car.  He just knew his way around a automobile.

There was a period of time where I kind of veered into a strange life of questionable choices.  However, shortly after this time I reconnected with Glynn. I had been going through a divorce and he had just been released from being a bishop and had just found out he had a major health issue.  Despite my absence and personal struggles, he welcomed me into his home during my religious revival and we had some profound discussions walking through his neighborhood. Those moments of connection and understanding I’ll always cherish.

Recently a couple friends of mine from that same neighborhood decided to get together and start a podcast.  Brent Whitley came up with the idea because he felt that a podcast would be a great way where three old friends who lived on opposite sides of the country could still get together and talk about old times. We also thought it would be a great keepsake for our families .  As fate would play out, Glynn happened to be one of our first interviews.  I wanted to interview him simply because he had beaten cancer several times and of course he was one of us.  Glynn graciously agreed to come on the show and he in fact dominated it.  The story was phenomenal and I don’t think anyone could listen to that show and not have dry eyes.  Inspiring was an understatement and I’d know he’d growl at me for the suggestion however, it is inspiring. 

What did Glynn teach me and what lessons can we take from this man's life?  He hit all the big check marks.  He was a great husband, father, grandfather, church leader, handyman and would give the shirt off his back to any of his friends if they needed it.  He had his moments of course.  Couldn’t stay awake on a boat ride - for life of me -, and isn't it odd he owned a boat most of his life. I wonder if he was ever awake ?  He also could be rather mean in his teasing, especially with me. He also was a terrible cheat in cards, ask his son.   But he was a great friend and man

Glynn taught me the following lessons in life.  Everyday is a gift from God.  Notice he didn’t say it was a blessing.  He said it was a gift from God.  If you think about it he probably didn’t relish everyday but he appreciated the time the Lord gave him and recognized everyday was an opportunity to serve and learn more.   He also taught me that you don’t have to be blessed with much to live a rewarding and rich life.  Glynn came from humble means and as we celebrate his life just look at the picture in this blog, it tells you everything you need to know. 

Glynn, I’ll miss you my friend.  Visiting Shawn in Arizona will be nice I guess ;-), but it will never be the same without you.  One day we’ll have a great reunion and I hope I can look back at my life the same way I’m looking at yours.  GodSpeed and until we meet again.

Your friend, Karl

The Complexities Of The Transgender Debate

In our most recent podcast, the 3 Dad Bods had the opportunity to engage in an unfiltered discussion regarding Transgender issues. The hosts Brent, Karl, and Shawn, fearlessly tackled topics ranging from conformity to media influence and the power of free speech. This recap will briefly discuss the major takeaways from this episode.

Brent immediately dived into the importance of questioning societal norms and rejecting the blind acceptance of the main stream media of transgender acceptance on every issue. As a an advocate for critical thinking, he emphasized the necessity of asking tough questions and understanding the motivations behind these stories you read in the news.

One of the most impactful aspects we explored was the overwhelming influence of media in shaping public opinion. We dissected the phenomenon of selective coverage, where certain issues are amplified, leading to heightened divisiveness. Our conversation questioned the motives behind these media driven narratives and examined how they impact the publics perception of what is really going on.

Throughout the podcast, Shawn maintained that we need to respectfully share diverse perspectives, this being the only way we can bridge the gaps that divide us and build a society that embraces true free speech. Also the need for mutual respect despite our differences.

Karl brought up recent instances of public boycotts against corporations, such as the case of Bud Light. This boycott and now others have had an impact on the bottom line with corporate activism. Many CEO's are now thinking twice about just rolling out political divisive statements which could affect how their customers view their products.

Karl and Brent continue the discussion regarding transgender sports. An emphasis of the Riley Gains experience in terms of the NCAA finals in swimming and how she was treated by the NCAA and now how she's been received by the mainstream media.

The most sensitive issue the 3 Dad Bods discussed was the impact of transgenderism on young people under the age of 18. Are parents selfish that push these changes on their children? Do we really understand the long term change of these drugs and surgeries? Why can't we just wait until these children are 18 and are adults.

These issues we go into more length during this episode.

It's All About Your Mindset

In a recent episode of our podcast, we had the privilege of hosting Patrick Tromley, a renowned coach and advocate for personal development. He identifies with the philosophy of stocism or in other words discipline. Karl and Shawn interview Patrick and he shared his insights on self-discipline, purpose, and the transformative power of aligning thoughts, words, and actions. This episode will leave you inspired and motivated to embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth. Join us as we recap the key takeaways from this informative discussion.

1. Embracing Self-Discipline: Patrick emphasizes that self-discipline is the cornerstone of personal growth. By setting non-negotiable tasks and following through on them, we build the foundation for success. He encourages individuals to create nutrition and training blueprints to optimize their physical well-being. Moreover, Patrick highlights that discipline extends beyond the physical realm—it's about showing up, taking responsibility, and fulfilling our obligations to our loved ones.

2. Unveiling Your Purpose: Discovering our purpose is a vital step towards leading a fulfilling life. Patrick believes that everyone has a unique calling and a responsibility to become their best selves. By identifying and embracing our purpose, we can contribute to the world in a meaningful way. He encourages individuals to tap into their conscience, which acts as an authentic voice guiding us towards the path we should follow. By aligning our actions with our purpose, we experience a sense of fulfillment and elevate our consciousness.

3. Balancing Relationships and Personal Growth: Patrick addresses the delicate balance between personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships. He emphasizes that personal development not only benefits ourselves but also positively impacts our families and loved ones. By striving to become the best versions of ourselves, we become better partners, parents, and friends. However, he acknowledges the importance of being mindful of the needs and aspirations of our loved ones, fostering a harmonious balance between personal growth and nurturing relationships.

4. The Power of Discipline in Relationships: Building on the theme of self-discipline, Patrick highlights the significance of discipline within relationships. By cultivating discipline in our communication, emotional presence, and support for our partners, we create a solid foundation for lasting connections. He stresses that fulfilling the needs of our loved ones and prioritizing their happiness should be an essential aspect of our journey towards personal growth.

5. Fulfilling Your Purpose Together: Patrick's coaching programs are not exclusive to men; they apply to women as well, with different roles and responsibilities. His aim is to empower individuals to become their best selves and contribute to their families and communities. By embodying their ideal selves, individuals can inspire and uplift those around them, leading to a collective positive change.

The episode with Patrick Tromley was a profound exploration of personal growth and fulfillment. It highlighted the significance of self-discipline, purpose, and balancing relationships on our journey towards becoming the best versions of ourselves. Patrick's insights us of the transformative power from within and the immense impact we can have on our lives and the lives of others. So if you haven't listened to this episode enjoy it its entirety.

It's all about Mindset

6 Lessons of Life

Mothers hold a unique place in our hearts and play an invaluable role in shaping who we become. In this podcast episode the Dad Bods delve into heartfelt conversations reflecting on their mothers' lives and the profound impact they have had. Through these stories, we see the love, resilience, and valuable life lessons passed down from generation to generation.

Care giver: Karl recounts the story of his mother, who was the second oldest among her siblings. He acknowledges the importance of family ties and shares how his mother voluntarily stepped up and cared for her younger brothers when her parents went through martial issues when she was growing up.

The Courage to Change: Karl further discusses his mother's journey towards vegetarianism. A chance encounter with a radio program led his parents to explore a meatless lifestyle, ultimately transitioning the whole family. Karl admires his mother's adaptability and skill in becoming an excellent vegetarian cook. The story highlights the importance of embracing change and the positive impact it can have on one's well-being.

Lessons in Acceptance: Shawn shares a personal story about Karl's Mom reprimanding him for teasing Karl about not having a backpack for scouts. Her frank response taught Shawn a valuable lesson about acceptance and recognizing that everyone has different interests and priorities. He reflects on how this incident left a lasting impression, shaping his understanding of empathy and respect for others' choices.

Resilience Born from Humility: Brent lovingly describes his mother's humble beginnings during the Great Depression. Growing up in Price, Utah, his mother's family faced financial hardship. However, her resilience and determination led her to California, where she graduated from High School. Brent acknowledges her strength during the uncertain times of World War II and the impact it had on her formative years.

A Beauty Queen's Legacy: Brent also shares how his mother's beauty and grace earned her the title of a beauty pageant winner. Through this accomplishment, he highlights the strength and confidence his mother possessed, despite the challenges she faced. This achievement serves as a testament to her inner and outer beauty.

Life Lessons and Unwavering Love: Both Karl and Brent express their deep appreciation for the life lessons imparted by their mothers. Karl emphasizes the importance of his mother's guidance in understanding right from wrong, while Brent cherishes the enduring love his mother has shown throughout his life. These reflections underscore the profound impact mothers have in shaping their children's values and providing them with a moral compass.

The stories shared by Brent, Karl, and Shawn provide a glimpse into the remarkable lives of their mothers. From the sacrifices made during times of trouble to the lessons in empathy, resilience, and acceptance, these mothers have left an incredible marks on their sons' lives. The love, strength, and wisdom passed down from these women are testaments to the lifelong influence that mothers have in shaping the course of their children's lives. As we honor mothers, let us cherish and celebrate their presence and the lifelong lessons they teach us.

For the whole story join us at Mothers Day Tribute

Inspiring Fitness Journeys and Overcoming Challenges: A Conversation with Susan Jensen

In the latest episode of the podcast "Three Dad Bods," the hosts are joined by Susan Jensen, a remarkable fitness enthusiast and wedding planner. This engaging conversation delves into Susan's personal fitness journey, her Instagram page, and her experiences in weightlifting. Despite facing criticism and unwanted attention, Susan remains dedicated to her fitness goals and helping others on their fitness journeys, she has become a true fitness influencer.

Susan reveals her lifelong passion for fitness, which began with activities like running and biking. Her journey took a significant turn when she discovered workout videos such as "Insanity" and "Body Beast," sparking her love for weightlifting. However, her pursuit of fitness was met with criticism from friends and family. Not to be discouraged, Susan created her Instagram page, "Suzy Q Fitness 70," as a platform to share her knowledge and connect with the fitness community. She discusses how weightlifting helped her strengthen her back and alleviate pain from herniated discs, reinforcing her commitment to fitness.

Susan shares her experiences dealing with negative comments and inappropriate messages on her Instagram. She also sheds light on her family's evolving reactions to her fitness journey, with her mother becoming more supportive over time. This support fuels Susan's motivation to share workout videos and help others without focusing on monetization.

The conversation transitions to Susan's coaching program and the challenges she faces in finding committed participants. The topic of macros (macronutrients) is introduced, with Susan explaining the basics of carbs, fats, and proteins, and their importance in maintaining a healthy diet. She emphasizes the value of professional guidance in setting individualized macro goals.

Susan highlights her husband's involvement in her fitness journey, sharing that he started working out alongside her and continues to be her dedicated workout partner. She also mentions her son's interest in following her workout programs, demonstrating the positive influence her fitness journey has had on her family.

The conversation takes a broader perspective as the participants discuss how their generation approaches fitness differently compared to when they were younger. They highlight the importance of staying fit and active, even in their fifties. The discussion emphasizes the significance of starting with small fitness goals at any age and taking it one step at a time. Also educating oneself in the practice of health and nutrition.

Brent asks Susan about the challenges of maintaining fitness routines during vacations, she responded offering tips like utilizing gym facilities or bringing resistance bands for workouts. They also discuss the benefits of using tempo work and slowing down weightlifting movements for increased intensity. The participants express gratitude for Susan's positive influence and example, highlighting the importance of accountability and sharing fitness journeys through social media to inspire others.

Susan Jensen's story of perseverance and dedication to her fitness goals is both inspiring and relatable. Despite facing criticism and unwanted attention, she remains committed to helping others on their fitness journeys. This engaging podcast episode showcases the importance of family support, handling negativity, and setting small goals at any age. It also encourages listeners to appreciate the abundance of information and resources available for pursuing a healthy and active lifestyle.

To learn more about Susan and her workouts go to @susieqfitness70 on instagram.

Check out Susans interview!

Three Dadbods Unplugged: Missionary Work and Religious Evolution

 
Episode Recap : Three Dadbods Unplugged: Missionary Work and Religious Evolution

Welcome to what we hope is an enlightening edition of Three Dadbods with Brent and Karl. In this captivating conversation, the duo delves into the profound topics of missionary work and personal journeys within the context of their religious backgrounds. Join Brent and Karl as they share their unique perspectives and profound experiences, offering valuable insights into the transformative power of missionary work and the evolution of personal religious beliefs.

The discussion begins as Brent asks Karl shares his thoughts on missionary work and its effects on personal growth. Acknowledging the benefits of developing communication and interpersonal skills, Karl also highlights the potential diversion of focus from personal and educational growth that can arise from intense missionary commitments. He opens up about the challenges he faced when reintegrating into academic life after a mission and the pressure to find a life partner upon returning.

The conversation sheds light on the difficulties that individuals encounter when transitioning from a mission to pursuing higher education or other paths. Karl shares his personal experience of feeling out of sync with his peers and struggling to find direction after his mission. He emphasizes the need for support and guidance during this transitional period, as well as the financial constraints and uncertainties that may arise. The duo also explores the alternative option of trade schools, which offer viable career paths without the burden of extensive student loans.

Brent also asks Karl to compare his experienc with his son David. Karl explains that David's missionary plans were disrupted by COVID-19, leading him to participate in a remote Missionary Training Center (MTC) program before finally embarking on his mission in Reno, Nevada. The trio discusses the challenges David faced in adapting his missionary work to the circumstances during the pandemic, highlighting the changing dynamics of missionary practices over the years. They also touch upon the pressures associated with serving a mission and the impact of mental health issues on missionaries.

In a profound segment, Karl and Brent delve into their personal journeys of questioning and reevaluating their beliefs within the context of their religious backgrounds. They share their thoughts on scripture interpretation, the influence of individuals on religious institutions, inclusivity within the LDS Church, and their own transformative experiences with faith. Brent provides insights into his research on Mormon books and journals, which sparked his inquiry into the consistency of the modern-day Mormon Church with the teachings of its founder, Joseph Smith. Both Karl and Brent emphasize the importance of individual beliefs and the potential for personal growth and change within the realm of religion.

The Three Dadbods conversation with Brent and Karl has offered profound insights into the transformative power of religious belief, either through the experience of an LDS mission. By exploring the challenges faced during the transition from mission to post-mission life, the evolving landscape of missionary work, and the personal journey of questioning and reevaluating beliefs, this conversation encourages introspection and growth. It reminds us of the importance of self-reflection and open-mindedness on our own paths of faith and personal development.

Karl and Brent also present a new segment they are introducing to the podcast. It's called "Get off my lawn" and every week each Dad Bod will drop his favorite story of the week, either nationally or personally and the other two Dad Bods will either fire off a shot gun sound effect or pour a cold one which means we love the story. We're also enouraging our audience to vote as well, who knows that story maybe part of our next conversation on 3 Dad Bods.

To listen to 3 Dad Bods, go to spotify and listen to The Three Dad Bods Podcast.